Learn Your Lesson - con't

It seems to me, most people in happy mode :) do not think much, most people in not too happy :? mode will however think alot. When people think alot, they will have something to BLOG. When people BLOG, they probably sleep late too :p . When they sleep late, they probably wake up late :d as well ...... endless ......

Human is good at learning, at least I think so. Unfortunately, human is even better at confusing. Today, I learned something that I learned few days ago. Yes, I repeated my previous mistake exactly :? }:) :( :jawdrop: :sick: . But, I learned alot of new questions in addition to what I learned few days ago.

It could be I'm still kid :) , naive :p , pre-mature :D . Do you ever order your younger brother or sister go bath? How many times you have to order them before they start action? Do they bother your order at all? Do they reply and say, please dont "ah ji ah zo }:) "? Do you ever talk after these? After all, how do you make them bath (bath early), for their own good in long term?

Teacher taught me that, "zhong1 yan2 ni4 er3", loyal advices are not easily accepted by ears. Well, when your friends always give you loyal advices, would you and friends actually become good friends in the first place? I doubt that. In other words, we probably should keep our loyal advices, provide only when we are asked to provide, or when it is absolutely necessary. But how do you know when it is necessary? Well, fellow readers, I dont know.

Things for me to learn dealing with friend, especially a girl:

1. Learn to at least listen, and think around loyal advices.
2. Learn to keep loyal advices, or at most spell it out once, not to keep repeating the same advice, if she doesnt listen or accept or ignore, CHANGE TOPIC.
3. Learn to accept the fact that loyal advices are being rejected. Dont feel bad, life still has to go on. It might not be as bad as what you think.

Things that I learned dealing with friend, especially a girl:

1. When you and the girl are going to reach the stage of "Ah Ji Ah Zo", if you wanna say "You are Ah Ji Ah Zo wer!!!", you must accompany that with a kidding smile. Otherwise, you might be upset later. Alternatively, you can use less offensive phrase, like "OK, I got your message :D " , same applies, accompany with a big smile.
2. If she is the one saying "You are Ah Ji Ah Zo wer!!!", then reply with a silly face :p , and CHANGE TOPIC, dont ever mention that again. This is at least better then seeing her offline and block you forever from her contact list.
3. Never make her feel that you are trying to change her plan. This could be difficult when you are giving a lots of loyal advices. To her, she probably cannot differentiate you are just advising, or actually intrusively trying to change her plan.
4. Never repeat the same advice in the same conversation. If she's very sensitive type, you are just better keep your advices. Spell them out only when she asked you sincerely.
5. She might say she'll listen to you, she might even agree with your advices. ;) But beware, that does not authorize you to repeat your loyal advices. You might still end up at AJAZ stage. Remember, loyal advices might be seen as an ORDER.

After all, do you really just keep your loyal advices, and let your friends hitting the wall? Well, they are not listening anyway. What else can you do? When you are given loyal advices, how well are you listening to them?

Well, I hope I really learned something, instead of getting myself into a super confusion mode.